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Downgrading is good

Jun 08, 2021

When I downgraded my goals, expectations, and lifestyle I get a weird sense of calm. I don't know how and why it happens maybe because I always keep setting the bar too high, which means I'm recalibrating myself.

I'm an ambitious person as a result if I see anything that's inefficient I have that urge to make it right and make it more productive but in that pursuit of perfection I tend to hurt a lot of people around me who love and care for me, my family and close friends. I recently heard this, Friedrich Nietzsche said that in order to be authentic to yourself you have to stay away from society since social norms controls us and they are a hinderance to your authenticity, and being authentic is beyond good and evil.

How downgrading helps?

I don't intend to hurt people around me but I still want to pursue my passion, both are my authentic selves. So I have unconsciously developed a lifestyle. I give my best for my goals for a fixed amount of time, it varies from 6 months to couple years, and then alternate with my other authentic self, I spend most of my time with family and friends. It's like a wave moving from complete work to complete love. That's why some part of the year I'm coding 24/7 and other half completely enjoying my time, or regularly making calls to my parents and relatives and other time completely ignore incoming calls too.

It's a roller coaster and I think it has its pros and cons. But I was largely successful because people who love me always waited for my wave to surface so they can be with me. I'm thankful to each and every one of them.

Thoughts?